DeAnna: mind over heart? over hormones?

A well known professor once told me that he estimates each person has three soulmates east of the Mississippi. (The university is located on the East Coast.) And watching DeAnna, you have to see that she could potentially be happy with a couple of these men. The whole process is self-selecting. The contestants WANT to fall in love with a beautiful girl on a collection of romantic dates. But DeAnna does look like she's "falling," with her emotions, for two guys. Editing aside, she genuinely sounds like she loves them both. After watching tonight's episode, I happened to be in a bookstore meeting a friend. I perused the relationship aisle. There are plenty of books about "Mr. Right," deciding if you should stay in a relationship, how to capture the man of your dreams. Obviously, no one has solved the problem that is love. And what parts of mind, heart, and hormone combine to create the euphoric feeling captured in wedding photographs. But one thing is for sure: it is worth it. So if you find it, or decide to have it, in DeAnna's case, hold on to it. And neither type of love is more legitimate. There's someone for everyone, so don't think it couldn't happen to you.